How to Give an Anal Massage

Erotic massage or sensual massage is the use of massage techniques to achieve or enhance sexual arousal. Your skin is the largest organ of the body with thousands of nerve endings, andtouch stimulates all of your senses. The anal area has many nerve endings and can be a wonderful addition to erotic massage. See if your partner is willing to explore some touch in that area. It doesn't have to mean that they will be willing to have anal sex later. It just means that they are willing to try having more pleasure.

Start with your partner naked and comfortably face down on a bed or massage table. You can be clothed or not, depending on how you want to end the massage. Begin by slowly kneading the muscles of the back and neck. Always try to push or knead the muscles towards the heart. The greatly helps the circulation in the area.

After a few minutes, slowly begin to move close to the top of the butt cheeks and occasionally reach down to push or knead deeply onto each cheek. Don't go straight for the anus yet, as these strokes are only meant to warm things up. After a little teasing around the anus, move down to the legs and quickly move to the feet.

Starting with the toes, use long strokes pushing upward toweards the anal area. Do the feet, then the knees, and then spend some extra time with the thighs, particularly the inner thighs. From this area, you can make additional excursions into the anal area, but again keep them light.

By now, your partner should be starting to enjoy the massage. Give them a little stimulation in the perineum, the area between the genitals and the anus. Tease them a bit, but always return to the anus for some light circling. Continue a light massage in this area for a few minutes to let your partner soak in the full effects of this erotic experience.

Next, it's time for some lubricant. Keep a single finger pressed lightly against the anus and pour or squeeze the lubricant down onto the connection, allowing the lube to seep into the entire area. You don't need much lube to start, but you'll be adding more as you go. As the lube opens things up, lightly extend your fingertip into the anus. This is a very sensitive area, and your partner is likely to give a strong signal as to how you should proceed next. For beginners, take your time before going deeper, and add more lube and lightly stroke the entire area.

Now that you've introduced stimulation into the anal area, take your time to tease the genital area as well. Both sexes enjoy the dual stimulation, and you are likely to elicit another strong response. Use a variety of fingering and analingus techniques to give your partner as much pleasure as they can handle.

Of course, an anal massage can be finished off in many ways. Use your imagination to give your partner as much pleasure as possible. If you don't know what they like, ask them.

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Prostate Massage for the Ultimate Male Orgasm

Usually, we consider the penis to be the only male sex organ, but the prostate is a man's other sexual organ. The prostate is a gland of the male reproductive system located underneath the bladder and just in front of the rectum. Widely considered to be the male equivalent of the female G-spot, there is a lot of pleasure to be had from the prostate. When performed correctly, a prostate massage can give a man a much more intense orgasm than he has ever experienced before.

Since a man already associates pleasure with his penis, the key to making a prostate massage work for your man is to arouse him by giving him a genital massage at the same time. That way, prostate sensations will also be associated with sexual pleasure. Begin by caressing his penis with both hands. Keep the stimulation on his penis going even as one of your hands starts moving down towards his anus. His erection may come and go, but the genital stimulation should continue.

Don't rush into the penetration part of prostate massage. Start with an external massage of the prostate. The perineum is located between the testicles and above the anus and most men find that massaging it is very pleasurable and relaxing. Next, massage his anus using a rhythmic, circular motion. You can gently push on the anus, as if you're ringing a doorbell, without forcing your finger inside. This will help relax the anal sphincter.

Ask him if he's ready for you to "come inside." If he is, apply lubricant to your man's anus and onto your middle or index finger. Then slowly penetrate him with your finger as far as you can go. Once inside, rest a moment while he gets used to the sensation of having something in his anus. Once you’re both comfortable and your finger is fully inside, slowly and carefully curl your finger. You should be able to feel a small, firm bump about the size of a walnut on the uppermost side of his anal passage, in the direction of his navel. This is his prostate gland.

Once you have found the prostate, press or stroke the gland along its sides in a rhythmic motion with the pad of your finger, not your nail. Do not massage the central (top) area because it contains several sensitive nerves. The maximum amount of pressure you should apply would be equal to the amount of pressure you would rub your eye with. Try different forms of stimulation: slight pressure, firm pressure, moving your fingers in small circles, stroking, or maybe even vibrations. By experimenting with different types of stimulation, you will identify what feels best to your man.

By applying more or less pressure to the prostate gland, you can learn to control your man's sensations, even to the point of inhibiting him from ejaculating. The ability to control ejaculation through prostate massage allows for nearly unending stimulation of the his genitals. Pressing on the prostate while he ejaculates can increase intensity of his orgasm even more.

A prostate massage can be very erotic and intense for both partners. It's a very intimate sexual practice that brings a couple closer sexually. You will be learning and putting trust in each other while sharing a new experience.

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