The 3 Best Anal Sex Positions for Intimacy

Anal sex is an exciting way for a couple to explore each other sexually, creating new and intense sensations for both of you to enjoy. Anal sex can also be an exquisitely intimate act, in which a woman surrenders her body completely to her man. Whether you are experienced at anal sex, or you are trying it for the first time, these three positions will allow for greater intimacy between partners.

1) Side Anal is a good position for intimacy. With her lying on her side and you lying on your side behind her, she can relax her anus, and you can easily access the entire anal area. This is one of the best anal sex positions because it allows you to enter from behind, but still be able to wrap your arms around your lover. As you have her cuddled next to you, pleasure her with slow and gentle movements. Caress her shoulders and softly kiss her neck and back from this position. This will make her feel cherished and appreciated, creating a sense of intimacy and causing her to be filled with incredible pleasure!


2) Anal Drop (woman-on-top) With the man on his back, the woman climbs on top. This is one of the best anal sex positions because she can control the angle that you enter her, the intensity of the movements, and how deep she wants you inside of her. Since you want a highly pleasurable experience for her, be attentive to her needs. Look into her eyes, caress her arms and hands, and kiss her affectionately. Let her know how incredibly sexy and attractive she is to you because that, along with the anal sensations, will stimulate her to reach orgasm.

3) Missionary position (man on top, woman on bottom) is the best beginner position for anal sex. It allows the woman to fully relax her anus, making penetration much easier. The woman lies face up with a pillow under her pelvis and her legs pulled up. The man should kneel or lie facing the woman and insert his penis at an angle that is comfortable to both. This anal sex position is also the easiest one for her to climax in because her clitoris is stimulated by the friction from your penis rubbing against it as you are penetrating her beautiful bottom slowly and gently. Remember that this position also allows for deep, passionate kissing and caressing because of the face-to-face contact.

Anal sex should not lessen the love and respect shared between the two of you. These positions will help your woman,enjoy anal sex more by making her feel that she is giving herself to you and not just being "used." Naturally, the more she enjoys anal sex, the more she'll be willing to do it. Not only that, but the intimacy shared in your lovemaking will strengthen the bonds of your relationship.

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My First Anal Sex Experience

My posts about anal sex have always been among my most popular with readers, especially my post 10 Steps to Great First-Time Anal Sex. However, my own first-time anal sex wasn't planned (at least by me) and didn't follow the ten steps.

My first anal experience happened during my senior year of high school. My mother was out of town on a business trip, so my boyfriend came over that afternoon after school. We drank my mother's vodka while we watched a movie. It didn't take long for both of us us to get pretty drunk (which helped a lot for what was about to come). Soon, we had forgotten about the movie and were in my bedroom, stripped down to our underwear, making out.

It wasn't long before my bra was off and then my panties. Almost as soon as my panties came off, my boyfriend started going down on me. Back then, being eaten out was my absolute favorite thing, so I just lay back, enjoying the wave of endorphins washing over me. Suddenly, I felt a sensation I hadn't felt before. My boyfriend was running his tongue along my perineum and getting closer to my anus with every lick. There was a part of me that wanted him to stop, but there was another part of me (the drunk part) that was telling me to relax and enjoy the sensations.

I had to admit that it felt good. My boyfriend did the trick where you blow on all the wet spots, and it was driving me crazy! He pushed my legs back even farther and dove right in, I'd never felt a tongue on that part of body - ever - but it felt incredible! He pushed his finger into my butt, and because it was so wet back there, it slid in easily.

When my boyfriend finally came up for air, I was afraid that he was going to try to kiss me. Instead he rolled me over on to my stomach so that I was lying flat on the bed. He pulled off his boxers, and then he climbed on top of me. I was really nervous about what he was going to do next (though I had a pretty good idea). Without saying a word, he pressed the head of his penis against my anus, and I remember whispering to myself, "Oh, my god. Oh, my god." He was really going to put it in my butt, but I wasn't as scared as I though I should be. I actually wanted it.

He used his legs to spread my legs wider. I felt him press harder against me, and then the head was in. He started very slowly, but after a few strokes, he pushed all the way in.

It felt very tight inside, and I thought he was going to rip me at first, but I took deep, deep breaths and did my best to relax. Fortunately, my boyfriend wasn't that big. If he had been any bigger, I don't think I would have been able to take it.

Although it still hurt, with every stroke it also began to feel good. It felt so good that I even put one hand underneath me and got myself off. (I'd never touched myself during partner sex before, so that was another first.) It was a very intense orgasm because of the amazing sensation of feeling him so deep inside me as my muscles contracted. My boyfriend came inside me right after I came .

Afterward, when I asked him how he knew I wouldn't make him stop, my boyfriend smirked and said, "When have you ever stopped me from doing something?" I didn't like his answer very much, but I had to admit he was right. Not long after, though, his cockiness caused him to go too far. To read about what happened, click here.

My book Anal Sex Secrets is a guide to great anal sex for both anal sex beginners and for couples who are searching for new things to try. To find out more about it, click here.

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Postillioning: An Introduction to Anal Sex

Men and women of all walks of life enjoy anal sex as an alternative to everyday lovemaking. Anal sex, practiced properly, is as safe as any other kind of sex, and it can be extremely pleasurable. The rectum and the rim of the anus are all rich sources of nerve endings. Postillioning is inserting a finger(s) into the anus, and may include massaging it and the rectum. Postillioning is a great way to help someone explore their rear and learn to loosen the anal opening.


The best way for you to insert a finger into your partner's anus

When your partner is getting aroused, begin to gently probe their anal opening with a finger tip, bearing in mind that you should have already lubed everything. Opening up for anal penetration can be a very intimate act, so respect the fact that you are being given the opportunity to enter someone's body in this way. The outside can be caressed in circles and mild probes. This is usually a very warm experience and helps relax the area. Stroke and massage around the anal opening, giving your partner time to relax into the feelings.

When you both are ready, find the center of the anus and press gently into it with your fingertip, while your partner relaxes and allows your finger into their body. Insertion is helped if the receiver pushes lightly out as if going to the bathroom. You may wish to gently move your finger back and forth. You should find that your finger goes further into your partner's body each time and then easily slides through into their rectum.

What to Do Once You're Inside

Once you get inside, you'll feel the thick, strong, muscular ring which is the anus, and beyond it the soft sides of the rectum. Keep at least your fingertip beyond the anus, or contraction of the muscle will cause the finger to pop out again. Tou can explore around, pushing your finger in as far as it'll go, curling it around the anus, flicking it back and forth. If you insert two fingers you can push them apart inside as a way to stretch and loosen the anus.

A few basic techniques to get you started are moving your finger in a circular motion exploring the walls of the rectum, moving in circular motions along a specific region, moving in and out, and rotating your hand to spin your finger. After learning what you can from these techniques, start mixing two, three or more of them together.

Here are some techniques specific for postillioning a woman or a man.

Man in Woman

Use your tongue to stimulate her clitoris and vulva at the same time as you gently massage the G-spot and other sensitive areas inside her vagina with one finger. At the same time, play with her anus, her anal canal, and gently on the wall of her rectum with another of your fingers. If you massage the wall of her rectum closest to her vagina, you may find that you can convey thrilling sensations through to her vagina. Of course, remember not to put a finger that has been up her anus into her vagina.

Woman in man

There are two very pleasurable spots in and around a man's anus. The first location is the anus itself, which is surrounded by a large number of nerve bundles and is very sensitive. The second is the prostate gland. It is located a few inches inside the anus towards the belly button, and often feels like a firm bulge.

If a man is lying on his back, the best way to massage his prostate is to hook a finger slightly upwards when you have penetrated his anus, and massage it with a fingertip. Be careful, though, because the exact amount of pressure you need to use to give a man maximum pleasure is something you can only establish by experience, so start gently and work harder as he expresses his pleasure. Try different movements of your fingertip, such as circles, strokes, and pressure. If you have a finger inside stimulating his prostate when he reaches an orgasm, you will send him to another world of pleasure, one that he will most likely be asking you to help him revisit. Prostate Massage for the Ultimate Male Orgasm tells how to give a man a more intense orgasm than he has ever experienced before.

Postillioning is a great introduction to anal sex. If you take your time, and let your partner get comfortable with the idea of anal play, you should eventually reach the point where they will seriously consider allowing you to try full anal penetration with a penis or dildo. When that time comes, following the 10 Steps to Great First-Time Anal Sex will ensure that the first time is a great time!

My book Anal Sex Secrets is a guide to great anal sex for both anal sex beginners and for couples who are searching for new things to try. To find out more about it, click here.

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